Hoarders..could I be one?

Compulsive hoarding Apartment

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I had the television on last night and one of those reality shows about hoarding came on (not sure which one, apparently there are several different ones).  I just sat there in shock at what those houses looked like.  At first I kept asking myself how in the world anyone allowed that to happen.  Then, as I listened to their stories, it began to make sense…to a degree. 

I understand things like this sneak up on a person.  They happen gradually until you’re totally overcome by your circumstances.  In hoarding, the stuff becomes your circumstances…it buries you…you use the stuff to not have to deal with the other stuff, the real stuff, that’s going on in your life. 

I now recognize that one of my best friends was a hoarder.  I think a lot of her “stuff” was that she was depressed, had been molested by her father for years, and had a husband who was cheating on her.  I truly believe depression has to play a part in this condition.  As someone who dealt with depression for several years, I understand the lack of motivation to keep your house clean. Even getting out of bed can seem overwhelming.  And there’s this feeling that things will never improve.  Of course, that’s the depression talking.  There is always a way out, a way to make things better.  But when you’re severely depressed, it feels like that’s all there will ever be.

I am so thankful that I was able to overcome the depression, but I know it could come smashing down on me again.  That’s why I try to force myself to do the things I know make me feel better…exercise, music, writing, dancing, and keeping my house semi-clean.  It’s always a joy to open the front door to a clean, fresh-smelling house.

As I was watching that hoarding show last night, I remembered all the stuff I kept for years, packed away in closets.  This was stuff that I didn’t like enough to display or use, but didn’t want to throw it out for some reason.  Fear of not having enough?  Fear of not being enough?  When I finally began going through things, donating or tossing things, I felt better with each bag or box that I got rid of.  I felt lighter…hmm…can you say “weight issues”?  I still have a spare bedroom that I need to declutter.  I have a lot of crafting supplies that I will probably never use again.  Sheesh…do you think an after-school program or a women’s club could put those things to good use?

I’ve spent a few hours today really cleaning house, putting a few things aside to take to work to give to anyone who might want it.  I’m going to spend a couple of days on my next vacation cleaning out the spare bedroom.  I know I’ll feel so much better when I can walk by that doorway and see a clean, uncluttered room.

So, do I think I’m a hoarder?  Not any more…and I’m going to do everything in my power to see that I don’t slip into that kind of behavior again.  What about you?  Do you have hoarding tendencies?  How do you combat them?  And, just so you know, that is NOT a picture of my house!!!

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6 Responses

  1. 🙂 Your quite a ‘surviver’! the opposite of ‘hoarding’ is an OCD for ‘cleanliness’, which can be just as bad for a person or those that have to live with them. Both stem from deeper issues. I work with ‘hoarders’ helping declutter and organize. It’s quite healing.. I don’t like the ‘reality’ tv shows about it. As I feel they shame a person, and hoarding is an after effect of a deeper problem.

    • Oh absolutely, I think there have to be deeper issues as with any compulsion…how cool that you work with people helping them overcome those tendencies and organize their homes and their lives!!

  2. I don’t know that was such a great idea for a reality show, either, but maybe it has helped others to recognize hoarding for what it is and try to help someone.

    • Yeah, I think those kinds of shows can go either way…either truly help people overcome their issues or push them in deeper. But it did encourage me to clean house today…lol

  3. I feel a deep compassion for anybody who has to deal with something like it. When I think about it though I’ve been in a lot of houses and never seen anything close to what all these shows are portraying. I do believe it’s really happening to all those people.

    The real beef I have with these shows is I think there is some manipulation going on. By showing them over and over we are de-sensitizing ourselves to the fact that these people are also human beings. A lot of them are under some pressure that they must clean their house. Of course they have to have help so they have to submit to public humiliation (a tv show) to get it.

    • I think you’re right, Simone. I mean, I watch some of these shows (even things like the Biggest Loser) and think that I’d never put myself through the public humiliation…I guess it all comes down to how bad a situation you’re in and what you’re willing to do to get out of it.

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